Minds and Mistletoe

SHREYAANVI SHARATH – As the last leaves gracefully fall from the branches, signaling the arrival of winter, the air becomes infused with a sense of anticipation and festivity. The streets are adorned with twinkling lights and festive decorations as the scent of freshly baked goods engulfs every household. The holiday season, a time of cherished traditions and heartwarming gatherings, sweeps across communities like a gentle snowfall. It’s a season that beckons us to exchange gifts, share laughter, and savor the warmth of connection with loved ones. However, beneath the surface of merriment, there exists a nuanced tapestry of emotions. The holidays can simultaneously be a source of joy and a catalyst for introspection, challenging our mental well-being in ways that are often overlooked: a story often experienced but rarely shared. 

Behind the shimmering lights and joyful celebrations, a significant number of individuals find themselves grappling with heightened stress levels and worsening mental health conditions. The statistics tell a sobering tale: According to the American Psychological Association, 38% of people said that their stress levels increased during the holidays. A NAMI study showed that 64% of individuals already living with mental health conditions feel their conditions worsen. There are so many reasons why the most wonderful time of the year can turn into the most unrestful time of the year; from unrealistic expectations to financial strain to loss and loneliness, many people deal with this but keep it hidden trying to fit into society. 

One significant factor contributing to the decline in mental health during the holidays is the pressure to meet unrealistic expectations. The media and different societal narratives often depict perfect, harmonious celebrations, which can create a stark contrast to the reality many individuals experience. The pressure to create picture-perfect gatherings to maintain familial harmony while saying yes to a plethora of activities can lead to feelings of inadequacy, stress, and ultimately, a decline in mental well-being.  Firstly, accept your limitations – because it is in fact, okay, that you can’t go ice skating, baking and caroling all in the same day. It’s important to prioritize and simplify the tasks to what’s important, to what brings you joy and give you emotional recharge. It’s ok to say NO, to situations that stresses you out, overwhelm you or ones that you simply don’t want to be a part of. 

Another factor is loss and loneliness. While the holidays emphasize togetherness, not everyone has a supportive social network or close-knit family. For those who have lost loved ones, are geographically distant from family and friends, or currently face strained relationships, the holidays can intensify feelings of loneliness and isolation. The emphasis on spending time with loved ones can serve as a painful reminder of the absence of meaningful connections, contributing to a decline in mental health. For people dealing with this, it’s crucial to find community through sources such as therapy, cultural centers, faith communities, support groups, clubs, volunteering, different social media groups,and so much more. Forging new bonds, and talking with others will always make a difference and who knows, you might even find a new family! 

The third factor is finances. The financial burden associated with holiday expenses, including gifts, decorations, and travel, can significantly impact mental health. Many individuals feel compelled to overspend during this season, leading to stress, anxiety, and even the accumulation of debt. Financial strain can create a cycle of worry and exacerbate pre-existing mental health conditions, making the holidays a particularly challenging time for those facing economic challenges.The inflation due to COVID-19 and recent global events only makes matters worse. You can avoid overspending by creating a budget, and sticking to it. Instead of one gift per person, considering a Secret Santa would drastically reduce the amount of gifts you have to buy. Opting for homemade gifts not only reduces financial burdens but also adds a personal touch.  The biggest thing to keep in mind is that the holidays are not about spending money, but rather a way to show your love and appreciation. 

The winter season itself, which coincides with the holidays, can also contribute to declining mental health. Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) affects individuals during the colder, darker months, leading to symptoms such as low energy, changes in sleep patterns, and a persistently low mood. The reduced exposure to sunlight during winter can disrupt circadian rhythms and impact serotonin levels, exacerbating depressive symptoms. Getting some fresh air and sunlight is critical in combating SAD. Other techniques such as practicing mindfulness, taking breaks, exercising, etc. will also help you and make you happier and make mental health better. 

Behind the twinkling lights and festive melodies, the holiday season is not just a celebration; it’s a shared journey of resilience and self-discovery. As you navigate the complex terrain of emotions during this time, remember that beneath the tinsel and the wrapping paper lies the profound beauty of shared humanity. In forging connections, embracing imperfections, and extending compassion, unwrap the true gifts of the season — a sense of belonging and the strength to navigate the changes of your mental well-being.

Copy Editor – Jason Lu

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